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The first day in kindergarten: Do not be afraid, do not scare!

After the parents choose kindergarten, they should visit that kindergarten with their children. It was a good opportunity to get the kid excited about this new adventure with little details like which road to take after leaving the house, what to do while driving or what to see on the road, to make him want to go again. When the kindergarten is arrived, after a brief introduction to the new classroom, other students and teachers, the child should be given an option to sit in that daily class or to walk around. Many parents make mistakes at this point, thinking that the child will get used to it as soon as possible, and they push their children from day one. This is an act that should not be done because when our children feel this pressure, they think that their own space of freedom is restricted. If he doesn't want to, it would be healthiest to come home without forcing it, keeping the visit short.

In the two years I worked in kindergarten, I went through the same process as hundreds of kids. And there was one thing I saw every time, which is that it's not just the kids, it's the parents or grandparents (grandparents) and even the nannies who make it quite difficult. Most of the time, those of us who are not ready to leave the child, we leave our children in a difficult situation, thinking that the child will cry, that he will be sad and that he cannot. We must encourage them and ensure that they adapt to this situation without ever undermining their sense of trust, without forgetting that they are also individuals.

Although there are many different approaches to this subject, I will convey to you the way that is most right for me and that I have been taught during the training. On the first day of kindergarten, the child should not spend more than 1 hour in school. Even if he loved it very much and immediately got used to it, it is necessary not to exceed 1 hour on the first day. And whoever brought the child to kindergarten for this hour should wait for him where the child can reach him. And within this hour, it is necessary to get a safe and healthy start without experiencing the feeling of abandonment by bringing the child together with that person whenever he wants. In the following days, increasing the time, it will not be too difficult to reach the time we want. But the most important thing here is to remember that the process of getting used to each child is different. Some get used to it in 1 day, some in 1 week, while others should be considered normal to get used to it in 1 month.

During the adaptation period, it is very important that the child is brought to school regularly. Maintaining this pattern, even on days when he is reluctant to go to school, will make the process quicker and healthier. Parents who act excessively protectively cause this adaptation process to be prolonged and difficult.  So I say it over and over again, please don't expect your child to get used to this process until you're ready!

I'd like to make an example of that, actually. Ayse, who is extremely happy to come to kindergarten, is worried when she sees the fearful look on her mother's face as she returns to kiss her mother after entering the door bye-bye. Alas! Since my mother is worried, she starts to cry and be reluctant, feeling something is wrong. In such situations, mothers cannot accept their children's separation from them so quickly and easily, and they can express their feelings to their children. Most often the mother's facial expression or emotions make the adaptation process more difficult than facilitating. Instead of long, painful goodbyes, these breakups should be short and clear. I'll pick you up at 12:00, honey, and you need to encourage the kid by using short, clear sentences. It's also very important that you keep your word at this point! Being inconsistent, saying I'm going to pick you up and handing over the job to someone else, or being late with the clock, undermines the child's sense of security. Try to be consistent and make him feel it.

Try to make an assessment of the day by getting mom, dad and child together in the evenings without going to bed. Ask him about his friends, what he did at school, his toys and his teachers. Let him tell you excitedly and try to excite him by making a habit of it. After a while, he will want to tell it himself and this quality time he shares with you will make him very happy. My advice is to coincide with this time a favorite snack, a child who thinks that memories of school are told at fruit time can easily establish the bond between these two, and this can become a cute routine.

We also often encounter many scenarios where the adaptation period really turns into a nightmare. I'm never in favor of making me cry and pushing, I believe that everything can be solved with love and patience. If you have a child who doesn't want to leave crying, try to divert his attention, rather than force him into the classroom or leave at once. Encourage him, enter his class together and offer to meet his friends and teachers. Your supportive attitude is the most important to him!

If you have a child who is crying, don't take a nap saying they can't, be patient, consistent and supportive in order to raise a confident child. The rhetoric to save the day, like, okay, you don't have to go today, we'll go tomorrow, it'll lead the adaptation process to a dead end.  We must remember that this is a process and encourage and support our children in order to raise children who can stand on their own two feet. Every child sooner or later gets used to kindergarten, do not be afraid of this process, do not scare him.

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