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How to protect our children from sexual abuse? 2

Promoting Sexual Zones

From an early age, we teach our children the names of many organs in their bodies with questions such as 'where is your nose', 'where are your hands', accompanied by games. But when it comes to sexual areas, we can't be in the same comfort because of social taboos and prejudices. Research suggests, on the contrary, that teaching your child the name of specific areas can be a method of protection from sexual harassment in itself, let alone being rude or wrong.

Don't be afraid to say the names and show them to him so that when something happens to him, he can come and tell you with the same comfort. Avoid using nicknames for sexual zones, thinking that it will be more cute and suitable for the child. Use clear expressions such as vagina, penis, breast, butt. Thus, when anything happens to him and he tells it to an adult, it can be easily understood without being dismissed for misunderstandings.

Teaching Self-Preservation

When we say self-preservation, we are talking about a large area of privacy, such as touching, hugging, sitting on your lap, kissing, stroking or taking a photo without permission. Whoever it is, make it clear that no one has the right to touch the special areas of their body. Clearly name exactly what kind of behaviors and what regions you mean. Explain what an adult can do when they are unsure of their intentions, ask their surrounding elders for help and should notify you immediately. Stories, books, animation games for your age can help with this.

Stress that even if it is people who are close, trusted, loved, it does not have to accept it when it is subjected to unwanted behavior, words or touches. Dialogues like "Come on, give Uncle a kiss, sit on your lap" are part of our culture. But as we persist in such situations, children can choose ways to feel obligated, to remain silent, so that no one gets upset, broken or troubled. It will be easier for you to learn if you explain the situation by gently informing family members and relatives when the time is right. "We know that you love him very much and you want to build a closeness. On the one hand, we, as parents, do not intervene forcefully when he does not want to, in order to respect his personal limitations and teach himself to protect himself. We need your help to do this."

When to Pay Attention?

Proximity degree, education level, income level, age, gender, none of them are factors that can cause you to trust an adult completely by being sure. You need to make observations about behaviors and situations that you find strange. I know it's a big deal to accuse anyone, close or far from your inner circle, of sexual harassment. One doesn't want to imply that anyone is in such serious danger, but remember that there is a possibility that your child is also in serious danger.

If there is an adult you suspect, you should first conduct a multifaceted review, staying common-mannered. You can observe his behavior, his activities, his relationship with children. For example, people who are overly interested in children's toys, their belongings, who often gather the children around them by giving gifts, who like to get close to them, and most importantly, who, in their lives, have more children at the forefront than adults, are remarkable.

It should also be noted that harassment can always come not from adults, but also from a child or young person of his age. When you notice such a situation, you should immediately contact the child's family and the competent authorities (school administrators, police, etc.) as you deem necessary.

Home Visits

It's not a good way to send it to a friend's house, to set extremely strict rules about sending it out for an activity, or to release it unsupervised. If you become overprotective, you can grow up to be a child with a high level of anxiety and insecureness. But, of course, we will remain vigilant. For example, what are the parents of the friend you sent home? Who else is in the house? What's he usually like when he comes from there? think about such questions thoroughly.

And when you're in a crowded house together, you shouldn't send someone you don't know very well, don't trust, to play alone, or check it out occasionally.

Be a Good Observer

Talking about how you spend that day throughout your relationship makes it easier to catch it when something undesirable happens. Apart from the personality traits you're used to, be sure to dyed over it and talk to it when you suddenly notice their introspection, anger, sadness, nervous, unappetising or insomniac state.

It's as important to keep track of her emotional state as it is physically. You can control your body so as not to disturb it, when bathing, dressing, etc.

Trust Him and Make Him Trust You

If you have an open relationship based on trust and a secure attachment that we always focus on, it's much easier for you to share with you what you're going through if there's a mother-baby attachment in development. In no case do you make the mistake of hiding what happened from the other parent.  Keeping it a secret in the family can make you feel like you have something to be ashamed of, and that's a second trauma for him. As parents, you should be able to feel that you will believe in him, take him seriously and take steps to protect him.

If what happened comes to light, he may think you'll be harmed, he may be afraid because he's been threatened, or he may feel that you won't believe him. To prevent this from happening, you should consciously feel that you are confident, reassuring and capable of protecting it from infancy. The most traumatic effect of childhood sexual abuse is not the abuse itself, but the fact that the relatives with whom he described the abuse did not act in a way that understood and protected him.

Again, one of the striking facts that research shows is that if the child comes to you with an allegation of abuse and tells the story in detail in a way that he can learn from elsewhere, he is probably telling the truth. Of course, exceptions are possible, but this is not a case of chance, so whatever happens, it must be listened to. If it turns out that what he's saying isn't true, or he confesses himself, there must be something wrong again, and we should investigate why the kid's lying.

Harassment, rape, abuse, they're all crimes against humanity. Neither the children nor we should shut up, we must make our voices heard with all our might. And remember that children can cope with all traumas, recover and grow up as healthy individuals with the strength, support, arm lift of you parents.

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