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How to calm children?

  • Not many people think babies/ children experience stress. Contrary to popular belief, there are many conditions that are a source of stress for children. Yelling at a child, punishing him, all kinds of physical and emotional abuse, neglect, trauma induced conditions (such as birth trauma, loss, medical processes), stress, anxiety, depression experienced by the parent affect children.
  • We know that in stress situations children have 'fight, run, don' reactions. In other words, children's behavior and reactions are taking shape in the face of a difficult situation. It is also quite possible that the health of children exposed to chronic stress may be negatively affected. In the early stages of many health conditions, such as high blood pressure, heart attack, poor immunity, and regular stress there are many publications that suggest it may be associated with exposure.
  • Aggression, Impulsivity, distraction, hyperactivity, sleep disorders, intense temper tantrums in children, somatic complaints, self-stimulation (such as finger sucking, shaking) behaviors, stress signals can be considered.
  • The most important principle in healing trauma is that children feel safe. Mirroring children's feelings, covering them, playing games with them, making contact with skin, looking at them is full of healing.
  • The issue that Aletha emphasizes most is that supporting the expression of stress in children has a critical role. He notes that children will express the trauma by talking, laughing, crying, having tantrums, shaking, sweating, playing. 
  • Aletha, who states that a crying baby will cry to get rid of its tension, even though all its needs have been met, states that it is not necessary to suppress these cries in any way. A child crying in the safe arms of its parent, whose feelings are accepted, will have an increased potential for recovery. (For scientific studies and detailed reading, see: Perry, Van Der Kolk, Canon, Selye, Solter)
  • Constant stress exposure of a baby/ child affects its brain structure. 
  • Research shows that babies/ children are more likely to be restless and cry just before periods that are the touchstone of development. For example, a baby who is still learning to walk will fall and rise many times in the process and be disappointed. The stage before you can fully do something is a challenging period for children. During these periods, more crying is needed to get the tension out of the body.
  • Aletha said that babies who were not hugged enough cried more than other babies. But that, of course, does not mean that not every crying baby is held in his arms. We can't deny the fact that some babies are more sensitive babies.
  • There's an interesting investigation into crying. A researcher makes a group of people watch an emotional movie and collects tears into tubes. In another time period, he gets the tears of the same people after chopping onions. Both types of tears contain stress hormones. But the concentration of the stress hormone in tears, collected as a result of crying with an emotional stimulus, is much higher.
  • "The Art Of Playing Games" he also touched on the healing games he described in detail in his book, Aletha. I believe that if we can understand the meaning and value of these games, many children will be free from their stress.
  • It's so important that parents can play with their child no matter what...
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