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How should the sleep routine be?

Recently, Sleep order with the Nilehas become an issue that attracts mothers and they want to be aware of. Dozens of questions, such as "What is the ideal bedtime in the evening?", "How to plan daily sleep?", are included in the dialogues between mothers. Physiological and developmental aspects of sleep aside, I would like to address this issue through the psychological and socio-socio-state of the child.

Creating a Sleep Routine

How should sleep training in infants be? First, exhibiting the same behaviors in the same order allows us to receive signals that it is time to sleep, both spiritually and physically. You can also plan a routine that suits you and your child, not exceeding 30 minutes in total. According to research, thanks to the sleep routine, the child feels safe and peaceful within a certain framework, the ability to calm down is supported, the mother's feelings such as anxiety, depression, outbursts of anger decrease, and the child suffers a quality sleep without holes. So what can you do to create this routine?

-Brushing your teeth, putting out your pyjamas, turning off the light or turning on the night light, being isolated from the sound and light of devices such as TV/phone are some of the most basic preparations of sleep for the child.

-Accompanying him to bed and putting him to bed can also be part of the routine. The point is, he's not used to sleeping in a different place outside his bed. Otherwise, when sleep is interrupted, it will become difficult to dive again.

-Good night kiss, hug, heartfelt word, all pieces that will support this routine emotionally. Concretely, what do we call a transitional object, a Sleeping Companion that will represent your closeness, your trust? How to choose? (Soft animal toys, dolls, etc.)

-Before sleep, due to the quiet calmness of the environment and the lack of stimuli around, it can give a space to those who cannot be expressed during the day. You can have a short conversation, just with comments, without asking him direct questions like,"I wondered when the return-to-school shuttle left you late.", "How much we ate for dinner!", "How nicely you played with your friend today."

Talk to him about it in non-routine situations, such as when there are no parents or travel. Even if there is a change in routine for that day, try to maintain habits as possible. So don't completely remove routines, but you'll be teaching your child to adapt to new situations.

What to Do When You Cry/Fear

I don't find the strict methods of ignoring a child when they cry and never going near him healthy in terms of his mental development. The child must feel that under any circumstances, he is heard, seen and his feelings are cared for. But that doesn't mean going and wrapping it up every time you cry and feeding the habit of waking up at night. Then what to do?

1. Reflect your feelings, like, "I know it's hard for you to sleep here right now" and "I understand you're scared/sad/angry."

2. Make sure there is minimal movement and stimuli so that he does not lose sleep. Don't turn on the lights, don't let him get up and walk around.

3. Be consistent. This habit will be strengthened if she knows that when the intensity of crying increases, you will take her with you. Remember, you're here for him, but that doesn't mean you have to compromise on boundaries.

Finally, what you are wondering about sleeping education in infants with parents can only happen step by step if a child can sleep alone in their room. For example, by lying next to him until he sleeps in his bed, then by sitting in his bed, accompanying him to sleep, and then sitting outside the bed in the room, waiting for him to sleep, you can ultimately make him sleep without you in the room, knowing that you are inside.

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