Ms. Merve, my baby is not sleeping. Ms. Merve, please help me, I have encountered many questions such as how to give sleep training. And I have to admit, it's something I love! Why, if you ask me, there are so many well-known wrongs about this that even a book is written on it! Wherever I open or which newspaper or magazine I read, I come across simplistic articles such as sleep training in 10 steps. And I'm sorry.
First of all, I just want to say that there's not one truth about sleep. A lot of mothers around me believe there's only one way. However, every child is different and each mother should shape her sleep education in parallel with her own life. Of course, there are certain rules that haven't changed. If you do this, I will try to blend the knowledge I learned in school with my own experiences and present it to you instead of approaches like it will be certain.
Sleep routine requires consistency
One of the biggest mistakes I have seen in Turkish mothers is that they have too many external stimulants in the environment where the children sleep. This may mean that your living room or living room will be ruined, but still the child should see the room as a place to sleep after a certain routine. It's called "Bedroom", the room with the child's bed! Our pre-bed routine with Yaman is to read books, so I built a small library of two shelves on the wall in Yaman's room. When bedtime approaches, which we do between 7:00 and 8:00 p.m., I tell him to pick a book. I'm preparing to have a quiet time, turn off the lights, without any external stimuli. On certain nights of the week, I take a bath first and then we read a book. Let's not forget, babies love to be consistent, take care to do the same things every evening and put them to bed at the same time. Believe me, after a while, he's going to want to do this routine without your help.
When trying to spend a quiet time, try to avoid too much eye contact. That was one of the first things we were taught at school, the boy you were in eye contact with, he starts to get excited thinking you want to play with him.
Another information we have learned is the importance of teaching babies the difference between day and night from an early age. In the morning, his room can get light. Even if it snows during the day, you have to take it out and get oxygen. It is also very important to help him spend energy during the day! The child, who cannot expend enough energy, has a hard time sleeping. In fact, the most important point here is to put the child and the environment into sleep mode. We must keep the room to the right degree, away from dark and external stimuli. We should put our children to bed at the same time, accompanied by calm activities and a certain routine. It's worth keeping this routine between 15 minutes and 25 minutes, or you'll find yourself reading for hours.
Let him cry?
I also want to say something about the recently very popular "Let the child cry, after all, he will learn to sleep on his own". This method is mostly advocated by American doctors, so I would like to remind you that we live in Turkey. Cultural differences play a big role in whether methods are adapted to ourselves. It is much healthier to choose a method that fits your own habits and is aimed at your child rather than researching the methods. Sleep is a method that we can teach babies, but you and your baby must decide which method you want to apply. As with everything else, it will guide you through this without a hit. But let's not forget that the most important thing in sleep education is stability. Repeat and do not give up without giving up what you have done! It's going to take time, but it's a process, and it's going to go away, remember! If you are determined, uninterrupted sleep will cease to be a dream.
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