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How do you know narcissist people? What should you do?

Personality is about the way and thoughts of a person to relate to the level of perception of themselves and their environment. It is behavior and adaptation disorders that begin in adolescence and youth and continue for a long time; causing problems in the family, work and social environment. There are many types of this problem that affect women and men equally. Personality disorders also cause psychological problems. 

Narcissism is a personality disorder that occurs when some individuals in society constantly consider themselves superior to other people with increased self-confidence. They consider themselves superior to other people. But not all people who have these characteristics may have a personality disorder. The majority of individuals with narcissistic personality disorder live their lives with increased self-confidence and distorted admiration that they feed on themselves. These people expect that these feelings that they feel in the same way from their environment will be replicated. Often, along with self-centered personality traits, they manifest themselves through lack of empathy, excessive personality augmentation (exaggeration), behavior dependent on success and power.  

  • He sees himself above criticism.
  • It exhibits manipulative behavior.
  • He uses other individuals for his own gain.
  • He wants to make friends with people of the same status as himself. But even when that happens, he is in a race with his environment with the urge to be ahead.
  • He exaggerates his own abilities and achievements and considers them superior.
  • He always wants to create environments where he will be right and approved.
  • He constantly expects praise and sets up a pressure environment for it.
  • He finds other people more talentless, more unsuccessful, less intelligent, and less beautiful than he is.
  • It assumes that people are in a state of self-service.
  • Although he considers himself a part of society, he thinks that he deserves special treatment in this society and claims that he is the person at the top of this society.
  • It exists through others.
  • Generally, the basis of this disorder is concepts such as worthlessness and lovelessness experienced in childhood.
  • As much as he may seem to have self-confidence from the outside, the concept of self-confidence in him is fragile, and showing it is his biggest fear. 

Those with narcissistic personality disorder are extremely resistant to changing their problematic behavior. Those with narcissistic personality disorder are professional at finding fault with others. Even the slightest criticism can turn into disagreement, conflict and aggressive behavior. Narcissistic personality disorder can be seen in people of all ages in all segments of society. According to DSM-IV, the incidence rate in society was 6.2%. In research, it has been determined that narcissistic personality disorder is more common in men than in women. 

‘Narcissistic’ individuals in close relationships and especially by their friends seem perfect at first. He exhibits a loved, successful, praised personality structure. But he tries to take love, often through manipulative behavior. In a moment of success, they stand out with superior ambition and blame behavior. People who experience this problem often load concepts such as worthlessness, incompetence into the person they are facing in relation to family and marriage, and try to gain the upper hand by establishing a policy of isolating the person. 

He usually tries to execute his relationships according to the order and command system. When he gets out of it, he becomes angry and exhibits aggressive, passive-aggressive behavior. His life is none of his business. If he shows interest, he usually does it because he sees it as a routine requirement. In total, when all relational dimensions are evaluated, such people are self-centered. To them, regret is a sign of weakness. But they rarely experience regret at some point in their lives. And when it is realized that they are experiencing regret, they usually close themselves out.

The diagnosis of this personality disorder is only made by a specialist clinical psychologist or psychiatrist. A person's perfectionist, superior successful structure, desire to be error-free and behavior to not accept error, inability to empathize, paying great attention to his appearance and desire to be remarkable, difficulties in his relationships due to constant criticism of his environment, and as a result, deterioration in the areas of functionality helps in diagnosis.

People with narcissistic personality disorder often harbor feelings of lovelessness and worthlessness that they experience in childhood, and although they may seem overly confident, this excessive self-confidence is based on a sense of insecurity. "Many narcissists immediately regret small, simple events, feel like an 'ugly duckling' even if they don't want to suffer deep down, “ Preston said. In some periods, such people exaggerate their love, and sometimes they can destroy the person they say they love, so to speak. Especially when they are full of love at the beginning of the relationship, over time they change the course of the relationship and become a cruel and arrogant person. 

It is a disorder that usually does not seem possible to be treated with medication. Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder are resistant to treatment. For this reason, treatment should be handled by a specialist clinical psychologist with a long-term psychotherapy method. Cognitive behavioral therapy is often used in therapy methods. It is the group of diseases that therapists are most challenged with. The recovery of those with narcissistic personality disorder depends on a long course of therapy. But medications are given for anxiety disorder and depression that occur due to a personality disorder. Thanks to medications, the growth of personality disorder due to other problems can be prevented. 

  • The limits of behavior towards a narcissistic person should be made obvious. 
  • All manipulative behavior in an emotional and psychological sense should be limited and not allowed. 
  • He should not be shown and felt to be approached with the fear of losing him. 
  • If you are afraid of losing a person, the underlying cause must also be determined. 
  • In the face of a narcissistic person, we should not fall into feelings such as guilt, worthlessness, inadequacy. The duty of nurturing the ego of the narcissistic personality should not be acquired. 
  • No effort should be made to change and correct him. 
  • Feelings that are positive or negative towards a narcissistic person should be clearly expressed.


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