After the average age of 1 year, a baby is on the way to becoming an individual who can now recognize himself in the mirror and the concept of "I" is formed. Making noises, throwing random smiles around is actually the way the baby socializes with the people around him.
Until the child starts school, parents star as the people with whom he is most in a relationship, but like his nursery friend, the neighbor's child, the supporting actors of his age also allow him to meet the concept of friendship. It is very important for the child to have the following experience: to be able to explore the environment under his supervision before experiencing his first long separation from home, that is, before school, knowing that the mother is still close to him and behind him when he needs it. If your child skips this stage, when they start school, they can suddenly find themselves unprotected in a large social environment. Especially in the 0-6 age range, all social situations experienced by the child are important opportunities to facilitate this adaptation process.
When the child gradually adapts to the school environment and the phenomenon of friends his age, that is, from the age of 9, he begins to experience the concepts of close friendship, friendship, even "bromance" close to "boy to boy" or "girl to girl". The best friend has now taken the lead role of the parents. It may be hard to accept, but for your child, your friend's ideas are now a little more important than yours!
So let's see what role you play in this socializing journey that begins from birth:
• You can teach the basic rules of social communication such as greeting, meeting, making eye contact by performing animations in-game. For example, playing with animals, with dolls, getting them to talk by playing a role, like recreating a dating scene.
• The child must first learn to express his or her own feelings appropriately and read the other's feelings, i.e. the concept of empathy. For this, stories, games and most of all, conversations with him will come in handy. Feel free to talk about feelings.
• Be careful not to warn or pressure your child with words such as "be aggressive, be sociable". Every child has their own sense of sociality and pace. He may prefer to be with a large number of people or to have deeper relationships with one or two people, there is nothing wrong with either.
• Likewise, when you call it "introverted, antisocial, wimpy", you may feel inadequate and withdraw alter or think that you do not understand it at all. It is up to you to respect his choice and only support him if he indicates that he has a difficulty in this regard.
• Within his interests and your opportunities, it is important to include activities such as sports, art or social activities such as cinema and meeting with his peers. His preferences should take precedence here, because it is very difficult to profit from an environment where he is forcibly sent when he does not want to.
• You may be right in your concerns as if you were learning negative surroundings and bad behavior, but if you have a trust-based relationship in which you can be honest, a profanity that a friend will learn only creates a temporary effect and then disappears. So, unless there's an extreme situation where it can be damaged, instead of making it more mysterious and valuable by imposing bans, just calmly take it and explain right and wrong.
• Finally, since you are the 'first friend' he acquired when he came into the world, he will be able to establish healthy relationships with his peers if he experiences all the concepts such as trusting, sharing, laughing together, being sad, getting angry when the time comes, and then being able to reconcile with you in a positive way.
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