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8 verses of saying 'no' to children

At the same time, you should be able to show that you understand your child's feelings and say no clearly. "I know how much you love ice cream, but it's not appropriate for you to eat it now."


Children, no matter how old they are, need to know the reason for this when they say no. You must explain in language that he understands why you were unable to fulfill his current request. Otherwise, the individual may not feel put in his place, it becomes difficult for him to accept 'no' and can cause conflict.


If you said no to something, it should be a clear no. It is risky to say that you will fulfill this request at another time in order to appease him, to make up for it or to manage the situation. There may be impatience, more questions, persistence in the continuation of patterns such as "Maybe tomorrow", "We can go to the evening", "Not today, but we will do it for sure next".

He scattered his brother's toy and damaged it, and you want to stop it by saying, "No!" It is important in the long run to try to understand the infrastructure of such angry behavior. But what you have to do at that moment is to show it the truth with a saying like, "Look, this is how this toy is actually played and it's much more enjoyable, do you want to try it?"


Likewise, explain the reasons why when he plucks a flower or hits someone, he should stop his behavior with sentences such as "This flower is damaged and will no longer grow", "He may have hurt when he hits his friend and he may break you". In this way, it is easier for your child to develop awareness and learn the concept of empathy.


When you say no calmly or sweetly, you don't compromise discipline. In fact, this is what should happen so that your child can perceive the word 'no' as a natural discourse, not an act of violence. Shouting and getting angry can both escalate tensions between you and cause resentment afterwards.


Saying no to something shouldn't mean he has no choice. It is important to be able to offer your child a space of freedom and to support the sense of being an individual. Therefore, be sure to offer him alternatives that he or she may prefer.



If the parents cannot find the common denominator in their decisions regarding the child, the child is presented with an unbalanced structure that is open to abuse. We don't want the child to learn the wrong way to get what they want when the wives are struggling with power among themselves. Be careful not to challenge the formation of this unhealthy dynamic and not to turn your indpressed against the child.


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